If thou shalt say in thine heart, These nations are more than I; how can I dispossess them?
Deuteronomy 7:17
It doesn’t matter what they say about you, or even what they have said.
What matters most is what you say within the confines of your heart (mind, will and emotions).
What are you saying in your heart? What things do you constantly imagine? What words are playing on repeat in your mind? What emotions are you constantly immersing yourself in? What kinds of things are you thinking about?
Whatever’s in your heart will eventually spill out of your mouth. And once it comes out of your mouth, you immediately speak death or life to your situation/relationship etc.
What are you saying in your heart?